Sunday, January 13, 2008

Modesty and Admiration

Modesty is an admirable quality. Say you have a person that admires you, and really thinks you are great. If that person then offers you something or rewards you with some privilege, and you don't actually think you are worthy of it, you have a dilemma:

  • If you accept the gift, you feel like you've got something you didn't deserve, which can make you feel sleazy. You also might feel like you're encouraging their honoring of you, which you don't really like.
  • On the other hand, if you try to turn down their offer, you risk displaying a kind of modesty that may lead to the person liking you even more.
So, what do you do? I have no idea. I just had to post my observation of this catch-22 of sorts.



January 13, 2008 at 11:01 PM

You tell them that you'd take the gift if you could, but if you accept any gifts your mother will think you're stealing because she's paranoid like that and call the police on you.