Sunday, February 8, 2009

Resolutions & Habits

I just decided to reassess my resolutions and lessen them somewhat, mostly because I'm not acheiving them anyway and might as well adjust them so they are reasonable - which will help me focus better. I read an article by a blogger I'm fond of and realized I had made way too many resolutions.

I am starting a new habit today though - meditating 10 minutes before sleeping each night. This said to choose a trigger - something you do every day, after which you do the new habit. I eventually realized that there are only about 3 things I do every day:

  1. wake up
  2. eat breakfast (actually, I don't on weekends)
  3. go to bed
Everything else is either optional or very indefinite in time or duration. The problem with the first two is that they frequently have to be in a hurry. This (waking up earlier) is another habit that I want to change, but I'll do it later.

As for the meditating, I know of a few ways to do it including technology like Holosync and just trying to clear your mind, but a new technique I've found says just think "in" as you breathe in, and "out" as you breathe out. Repeat. I shall try it tonight.

Monday, February 2, 2009

Know Your Dating Discrimination Rules - They're not all the same!

I have come to realize there are certain strange societal rules about choosing dates or partners that apply only to physical appearance or race, which are completely the reverse for religion:

Physical Features:
It's okay to say "I really like blonds" or "I love Asian chicks" (well, the second one only sort of). It is not, however, okay to say "I won't date black girls" or "I could never go out with a redhead".

Religion (OTOH):
It's okay to say "I couldn't date a Catholic" or "I'm not allowed to go out with anyone who's Buddhist". It isn't okay to say "I think I'd like to date a Jew" or "It would probably be really fun to go out with her - she's Muslim".

Naturally, this isn't true absolutely, but it seems that for physical traits, we are only allowed to discriminate positively, and for religion, we're only allowed to discriminate negatively (the exception being for sameness: "He's Taoist just like me"). This all makes sense when you think of the history of each, but it's interesting to ponder.